Erotic hypnosis is often misunderstood and misused as a title all over the internet. Is it real? Is it role playing? Can it improve your sex life?
This article aims to shed some light on the myths and facts around erotic hypnosis and provide some clear information about it.
What is Hypnosis?
Before we get into erotic hypnosis, we need to understand what hypnosis is and how it works.
Hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness that occurs on the conscious and subconscious level. It is a heightened state of awareness that allows a person to experience an altered state of reality, which opens up a psychological doorway to the power of suggestion.
In this mindset, the subconscious is activated and the conscious is distracted. What that means is that the part of the mind that is inclined to find reasons to say “I can’t because” to almost everything is offline and the part of the mind that is inclined to say “Yes, how can I help you get there?” is listening to everything being said.
Hypnosis is a very natural state that everyone slips in and out of at various parts of the day. Yes. Everyone. Everyday.
Have you ever been watching a very interesting and engrossing television show and when they cut to commercials you just sit there, processing what you just saw, thinking about what is to come, all the while not paying any attention to whatever advertisement happens to be playing? That is a light level of hypnosis.
Not a fan of television? Have you ever been driving home from work on the same boring path you always take and then suddenly you are in your driveway and don’t really remember the entire drive? Yup, your subconscious can drive you car just as well as (actually, better than) your conscious.
One more, how about being so involved in a project at work that the next time you have a moment you look at the clock and hours have passed in what felt like minutes? Also hypnosis.
Now, let’s cover a little of the background of hypnosis.
History of Hypnosis
Hypnosis became mainstream, so to speak, during the 1700s and 1800s when Franz Mesmer, an Austrian physician, began to research and experiment with hypnosis and hypnotherapy. He theorized that there was a natural energetic transference that occurred between all animated and inanimate objects that he called animal magnetism, sometimes later referred to as mesmerism.
Of course, his research was met with skepticism and resistance in the beginning but later began to gain acceptance. Franz Mesmer is often accredited with being the “Father of Hypnosis” However, while Mesmer certainly was considered a major player in the field of hypnosis, James Braid was the actual pioneer of hypnosis.
On to the fun stuff!
Is Erotic Hypnosis is Real?
It is often asked if “erotic hypnosis, “recreational hypnosis”, or hypnotic fantasy” is real or if it is just role playing. Well, the answer is actually, both. Erotic hypnosis is very real and can be used in a way that helps people overcome shame, increase intimacy, overcome sexual obstacles, or just have a little fun.
Erotic hypnosis involves engaging the active imagination and it is important that you understand that role play is often part of the hypnotic experience.
It is, in my experience, by far more role playing when the “tist” has no clue what they are doing and just rub their breast and talk (for example). Now, this still could work and it still has its place and there is nothing wrong with just role playing. So if you do this, and it has the desired effect, keep doing it.
You Need to Be Receptive
At its core, all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. It is as if you are controlling the gas and the brake and your “tist” is manning the steering wheel. They will guide you to fun,
interesting, mindbending, provided you are willing and able to let go. For some, this is natural and for others it is a learned skill similar to mindful meditation.
If you are closed minded, hold rigid thoughts, have difficulty trusting, or have problems relaxing, hypnosis may not be helpful. You need to be open to the experience in order for something beneficial to happen.
Erotic Hypnosis Is Not Brainwashing
One of the most common myths is that hypnosis – including erotic hypnosis – is the same as brainwashing. This is a myth. Brainwashing is often used as a term inside of erotic hypnosis as a way to communicate a degree to which a suggestion would take hold but true brainwashing is something different and requires much more time and energy than any hypnotist is going to want to put into a person.
Now if you or your partner like to role play that you are being brainwashed – more power to you. It is loads of fun.
You Can Be Hypnotized Against Your Will.
But not if you are actively resisting.
T.V ads are a great example of this; you sit mentally consumed, your mind drifting off wondering what is going to happen to your favorite character. Then, BAM a Taco Bell ad comes on. You think nothing of it and resume your show but a little later you feel hungry and often a few days later you are craving Taco Bell and have no idea why. But this is not the same as someone telling you they want to hypnotize you and you saying no and walking away.
It is much harder to hypnotize someone to do something that goes against their core values. This would require a lot of time and energy. It is more of an indoctrination and brainwash than just hypnosis by itself.
You Won’t Do Something You (Adamantly) Don’t Want To Do.
This is where it gets a little tricky. People don’t always really know what they want. Even if they suspect it, they might not be honest with themselves about it. Take a common theme in femdom erotic hypnosis, the sissy transformation. A man who has never been completely honest with themselves (or struggles with a lot of shame) regarding their sexuality might see a hypnosis file that claims to to make them more feminine to varying degrees and think that there is no way it could ever have an effect on him. Upon listening to it, finds himself drawn to it, and then blames the hypnotist for making him like it. The man in this case either already had a predilection for it or discovered he did once he listened. You have to ask, why would he click on it in the first place?
This is where role playing can add the dynamic of it being a “forced” situation. Because, a subject’s deepest desire might be to experience a lack of control. To expand upon the last example, this subject could be completely heterosexual, and yet still subconsciously seek to comply with the suggestions of the sissy file in order to fulfill their fantasy of being controlled. Even in this case, subjects can still easily reject suggestions that run counter to their strongly held beliefs.
Anyone Can Be Hypnotized.
Hands Free Orgasms Are Not Always What You Think
Much is said in the industry of the HFO, or hands free orgasm. Like being hypnotized in general, it’s a skill, and some people have more natural aptitude. Even in cases where a full on hands free orgasm doesn’t happen right away, subjects still feel intense physical sexual experiences. Often it is an orgasm and not and ejaculation.
I hope this article has been helpful on shedding some light on the myths, facts, and misunderstandings about erotic hypnosis. If there is a question or topic I have missed that you have, please leave it in the comments below.