Hard Limits: Yes, You Have Them

Sub: "Mistress, I want you to control me." Me: "Great, Book a session and I need a list of your kinks, hard limits, soft limits, and safe words." Sub: "I don't have any hard limits" Me: "Fine, shave half your head, one eyebrow, tattoo my name on your scalp, and be a walking billboard for me." Sub: "Okay not that. I want you to control me" Me: "Okay, punch your balls, lick a toilet seat, bark like a dog and buy me a gift".... Sub: "Oh I am not into any of that." THEN YOU HAVE HARD LIMITS. STATE THEM!!!!! Now that I have that off my chest; let's talk about hard limits, misconceptions, and negotiations. Every good scene starts with negotiation. Why? Getting Consent Have you seen consent fries? Have one, have two, have thirty! They are healthy and good for you. Share them with your friends. Consent is...Read More

What are Binaural Beats?

A binaural beat is an auditory illusion perceived when two different pure-tone sine waves are heard; one tone in each ear. The difference between the two frequencies creates a "warble" like effect and brings the brain to the desired state.  For example, if the left ear registers a tone at 250 Hz and the right at 260 Hz, the binaural beat heard is the difference between the two frequencies — 10 Hz. How do binaural beats work? Binaural beats work when a person listens to different sound frequencies for a set amount of time, without any distractions, and in a comfortable space. Research shows that when a person listens to binaural beats for a specified length of time, their levels of arousal change and can increase quality of sleep, creativity, sexual arousal, and more. This is why it is a perfect complement to erotic hypnosis. Listening to binaural beats while going into trance can...Read More
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Erotic Hypnosis: Uncovering the Truth

Erotic hypnosis is often misunderstood and misused as a title all over the internet. Is it real? Is it role playing? Can it improve your sex life? This article aims to shed some light on the myths and facts around erotic hypnosis and provide some clear information about it. What is Hypnosis? Before we get into erotic hypnosis, we need to understand what  hypnosis is and how it works. Hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness that occurs on the conscious and subconscious level. It is a heightened state of awareness that allows a person to experience an altered state of reality, which opens up a psychological doorway to the power of suggestion. In this mindset, the subconscious is activated and the conscious is distracted. What that means is that the part of the mind that is inclined to find reasons to say "I can't because" to almost everything is offline and...Read More

The Importance of Vulnerability and Communication with Your Domme

Written by: Syren's Dirt What it means to trust, to communicate and to respect your Domme by allowing yourself to be vulnerable and to communicate when there is something that is not working Are you looking for long term submission in a D/s relationship? Or maybe you’re just looking to submit in a kinky session and be done. The latter can be a great escape from your every day life, and a great way to try something new. The former though, is what I’ll be talking about here. No matter what your level of interest, it’s important to understand what you’re looking for and be honest about it.. to both your Domme AND to yourself. Me, I’m longing for that lifestyle submission. I’ve been looking for it my whole life. And as much as I’ve learned in this journey, I still struggle with a major aspect of submission.. being vulnerable....Read More
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BDSM Facts That You Won’t Learn In “Fifty Shades Of Grey”

Fifty Shades of Grey has shown a glimpse of some components of BDSM but did you know that there are a lot of things in Fifty Shades of Grey that hasn’t been tackled yet (and so many things they got wrong)? So here I am, I am going to discuss some of the basic facts about BDSM. BDSM is not always about sex. Wait, what? But BDSM looks like it’s mostly about sex based on what has been shown in Fifty Shades of Grey. BDSM is not always about sex. In fact more often than not, especially in the professional world, sex doesn’t play much of a factor at all. Now, I want to add a side bar to this in that I am using the term sex to men penetrative or mutually stimulated release. This is not how I define “sex” but it is the label we have to...Read More
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Findom as a Bar (An analogy): How to indulge without getting kicked out.

Sometimes it is easier to express or grasp a concept of something that is new or difficult when it is in line with something we are already familiar with. Therefore, I have come up with this analogy to explain the do's and don'ts of findom. While I am sure it is not perfect, as very little in this life is. Hopefully it will provide the "a-ha!" moments some need from time to time.  (I am also certain I will update this as time passes). *I understand the importance of gender neutrality and that both subs and Dom/mes are any and all genders but for the sake of making this easy, and going off the higher statistics, it is written with a male sub and female Domme in mind. You are young, just reached drinking age. You have been drinking at home up till now but your girlfriend / wife, while...Read More

Sensual Sadism: Hurting you with pleasure.

When many of us think of “sadism” we think of some pretty heavy stuff. Ball-gags, whips, chains, restraints, all used to dish out pain, and inflict marks, humiliate, and so on. While that can be fun for many in D/s relationships, I often prefer a much more sensual side of sadism. Those lucky subs who have served under me know exactly what I mean. I get absolutely turned on watching your reactions--the ragged breathing, uncomfortable shifting, needy moans, etc--as you lose yourself in the moment. While I find impact and other forms of sadism to be entertaining; my personal brand of sadism has more to do with inflicting a different sort of pain: that pain that comes from overwhelming lust and desire. The pain that comes from edging without release, having to beg for that sweet release, which you might not get (at least not today, maybe not tomorrow, either)....Read More

The Importance of Aftercare

“Aftercare” is a term that isn’t often used in the non-kink, vanilla world, although it almost certainly should be. But what is it, and why would we need such a thing? Simply, it is caring for, checking in, and comforting your play partner (whether it is something completely new and kinky, or something tried and true) to make sure our partner is comfortable and ready to return to the “real world.” And we need it because society has (and continues to) put unnecessary shame on the ways we like to explore our sexuality. Of course, this is not just about the guilt that some of us experience, but the physiological after effects that happen naturally, including the drop in endorphins. Without proper aftercare, subs and Dommes alike can experience an emotional drop, even leading to depression. Moreover, by incorporating aftercare, we can discuss what was really good about the session,...Read More

Princess Buttplug Goes Panty Shopping

Princess Buttplug Goes Panty Shopping feels like the start of a kids book for adults and therefore I shall write it as such. This was how I spent my afternoon playing with one of my male subs. Enjoy. [caption id="attachment_958" align="alignleft" width="300"] Meet Princess Buttplug. Before the panty shopping.[/caption] Princess Buttplug was feeling a little less than pretty. Her fuzzy white tail swishing against her legs and the ribbed metal buttplug rubbing her prostate was not enough for her anymore. She wanted, needed, to feel pretty and she knew the boys were just around the corner. New pink slutty panties were just what this Princess needed. All the boys will go crazy when her Mistress puts up her profile to suck cock IF she is wearing some sexy new panties. So one day Princess Buttplug is sent to Victoria's Secret to select a few new pairs all the while on...Read More